This
is dedicated to those of you who have wondered if there is another
woman anywhere to be found who has the faintest concept of what you
are going through. –- Susie
Over the past few years I’ve written down some of my thoughts (in
those rare moments
of coherence!) and some of the insights I’ve gained as a wife of a man
who has struggled with transsexuality since he was three. Upon reading
them, you will soon discover that most were gained by "muddling" in
and out of messes -- some of my own making and some as a result of my
husband’s choices.
ONE CERTAINTY:
Father God was always in the thick of it with me. He sometimes seemed
eternally slow according to my timetable, and maddingly unresponsive
to my temper tantrums and attempts to control Him. But His everlasting
arms were always available to me when I sought Him out.
As I look back, I see how He often prepared me in advance for some of
the fiercest battles I was to wage, and some of the most devastating
emotional "landslides" that I was to survive.
He definitely kept His promise to me: "In the world you have
tribulation and trials and distress and frustration!" But He was
also faithful to keep the second half of that same promise: "But be of
good cheer [take courage; be confident, certain, undaunted]! For I
have overcome the world.
[I
have deprived it of its power to harm you and have conquered it for
you.]" John 16:33 Amplified
It is my desire . . . and prayer . . . that you will at least come
away with one definite impression: "I AM NOT ALONE! I know that there
is at least one woman who has walked in my shoes."
NOT ALONE ANYMORE!
And I am not the only one (unfortunately!). There are many others.
Over the past years, I’ve been privileged to talk with hundreds of
other women, each with a husband who is carrying on a love affair with
"another woman" – a woman he attempts to emulate in his own world of
fantasy.
’HEART 2 HEART.”
Now, thanks to the Internet, we are beginning to "connect" with one
another through an email group that I established to build a network
among the wives. You can join at:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LeadOn_Lord
It’s composed of Christian wives with CD/TS husbands.
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Some are still with their husbands
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some separated,
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some divorced,
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and some widowed.
So whatever circumstances you’re in . . .
you fit. |