Trust in the lord with all your heart and
lean not on your own understanding.
(Proverbs 3:5)
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For the wife
Help, My husband wears women’s clothing
(written by a wife) |
What the wife needs:
1. Prayer. This of course is the standard answer in the church, but this is
also the best place to start. See that she has a strong woman prayer warrior
who will pray with her on a regular basis.
2. Counseling. A counselor with a Christian world view, who is familiar with
counseling homosexuals and their families and who believes strongly that
homosexuality can be overcome, is a good place to start. Christian
counselors experienced in co-dependency, especially for sexual addictions is
another excellent point.
3. Encourage her to remain with her husband, especially if her husband is
willing to get help but prepare her to leave. The husband has to be the one
to decide to get well. Encourage her to find a part time job to prepare for possible reentry into
the work world if she is a stay at home mom. Help her find child car and
also time for her to spend with her children. Mothers with small children
might want to consider working in a daycare situation where they can keep
small children with them. Help her find a Christian family lawyer who can
guide her through this process with prayer, grace and hope. If a trial
becomes necessary, have someone from the church go with her.
4. Help the wife seek out others in her situation. While this kind of
situation is becoming more and more common, it is still rare enough that
she’s not going to quickly find other women near by who are going through
this. The internet can provide a group that will be supportive and
encouraging to her. Help her to be discerning and careful with the online
group she chooses.
5. No matter what your opinion about her husband’s behavior, remember that
the wife is hurting and scared. She needs your love and compassion. She is
not going to heal her husband by being a better wife. Healing belongs in the
hands of her husband and God.
What do you say to a woman who comes to the church and says that her husband
cross-dresses or wants to be a woman? In a world where right is wrong and
wrong is right, the church is confronted with a variety of issues that often
are not as black and white as they were just one generation ago. What do you
say to a woman who has the media and science telling her that she needs to
accept that her husband is a woman trapped in a man’s body. There is hope of
healing for both the wife and the husband. The hope comes not in accepting
untruths, but embracing Christ and loving both the husband and his wife in
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