You are not alone

Through the e-mails I've received and the conversations I have had with family members, I try to encourage them with understanding and love. They are traveling a road whose path is uncertain. I learned through my life experience that this road is long and painful. The correspondence with people remind me of the fact that there are others out there who know and hurt in the same way and there are others dealing with these issues. As I started the ministry Help 4 Families I found peace in the words "You Are Not Alone." I felt alone from the very day my father told me about personal struggles and up until the day of his death. I had no one to confide in or talk to. That can be such a lonely and scary place. I want others to know that "You Are NOT Alone". There are others who struggle with the same issues you are having to face.


Other family voices and experiences are shared to encourage you that you are not alone and there are others who are facing this same kind of crisis. Here are some other voices sharing their pain and agony…….

My father has turned to cross-dressing to feel like a woman. This concerns me because of future grandchildren. He has not truly considered any ramifications from his choice.

My dad had just received his new driver’s license with a “corrected gender.” Every one knows of his full intention to have sex reverse surgery. Our government goes along with it just like society. He just wants me to go along with it and I can’t. It kills me inside when I see him all dressed up as a woman and earrings to top it off. It feels like a dagger in my heart.

My teenage son was recently caught cross-dressing in his bedroom. I found panties, bras, teddies. I am not sure where to go in order to help him.

I am unable to escape the truth about my dad. I want people to pray for my dad. I felt angry as dad’s selfishness seems to be all that he cares about. How do you tell your children that their grandpa is now a grandma? I cannot see myself seeing him again when he is wearing women’s clothing, earrings and make up to top it off.

I learned at the age of 14 that my dad cross-dressed. My mom wanted me to know the truth. I’m now in my 20’s. I’m glad she did tell me sooner in life. My dad believes that going through the operation is the only way he can cure his pain. I believe it is a temporary fix until life stares him in the eyes again and he realizes the pain still exists.

I have been married for 26 years. I have hid a dark hurtful secret. I am just about through with this whole hurtful mess. I recently learned about someone else who shares the pain of having a cross-dresser for a husband.

Our son just told us he was gender dysphoric and he was taking hormones to become a woman. He is walking down a scary path. Some of our close friends are supporting our son and that hurts. They have no idea of where this will lead him.

I pray every day that God will heal my brother. I feel like I’m slowly dying. I don’t show it from the outside but my inside is hurting. I try to block it out. I’m so confused.

This would kill my mom if she knew about my brother. My brother said this is no one's business but his. I don’t want kids any more. I am scared of how they will turn out after living this with my brother.

My son just turned 17. His friends have encouraged him to believe he is a girl. It started with him shaving his legs. My son is wearing skirts and a padded bra to school. How could this be happening? It is like an evil personality has taken over him. The people who encouraged him seem to be in control of him.

My brother is a born again Christian. He just shared with me that he is going to change his sex. He does not listen to me because, like your father, he found a church and friends who support his lifestyle. I am so angry that he would do this. I cry for him because of the choice he has made. He knows better.

My brother is 40 and believes he is a woman and he is different then transsexuals. My brother claims his desire to be a woman was inborn. He wants me to pretend he is my sister and go shopping together as two girls. I can’t do this. I have a daughter and I’m concerned of the effect this will have on her. How do I tell my daughter she now has an aunt instead of an uncle?

My husband recently shared with me that he was going to make an announcement that would impact our children’s lives and I would need to be there for the kids. He shared that he had been seeing a psychiatrist and both of them were convinced that he should have been a woman. One of my children told people that her dad was dead. Another child began to drink. This has impacted their lives in one way or another. My daughter shared that she and her brother can't believe how lightly this subject is treated on talk shows. You never see this side of it.

My son just shared that he is going to have sex reverse surgery in September. He never had feminine characteristics. We cannot support his decision. My heart aches for him and few people understand what this is like when it touches your family.

I have noticed that my nephew likes to play with girl stuff. He does not care about anything that would relate to the boy world. I am very concerned that this may not be a "phase" he is going through.

My father is 38 years old and believes he wants a sex change. We are shocked by this. He has never showed any feminine attitudes or characteristics. We have tried to talk to him. My father is going for electrolysis of some kind. I am scared to death for him and I cannot support this decision. My heart is breaking in half.

My ex-husband announced on an important family day that he was going to become a woman. One of our daughters has started to drink heavily and our other child has started to pop pills to numb her feelings. We cannot believe how lightly this subject is treated on talk shows. I am left to deal with his fall out with life because of what this is doing to our children.

I have a 32 year old son. He told us he was gender dysphoric and was taking hormones to become female. He has legally changed his name. As parents, this is scary to watch happening to your child.

I find there are days where I break down and cry hysterically because my husband’s desires of being a woman hurt others and it is going to hurt my kids immensely.

My brother is a born again Christian. He told me he is going to change his sex. I don’t understand how a Christian can do this. I told him I don’t agree with his choice. He always wants to debate the issue with me. I have cried so much. It is like my heart has been torn in half.

My son just turned 17. My son’s friends have encouraged him that he is a girl. He rejects me. He treats me with contempt. It started with him shaving his legs last summer. He left the house today as a flamboyantly-dressed female and appears to be wearing a padded bra. It is like an evil personality of a girl called Barb has take over a loving, good young man.

I am trying to come to terms on how my role as my father’s son will change. He wants to live his fantasy life as a woman. He does not realize the effect this will have on his grandchildren. How do you explain something like this to children? A family member mentioned that there is a support group for family members of transsexual people. But I don’t agree with their theory or acceptance of this. I don’t know who he is anymore.

When I came home from school today my dad was in a dress. I was so embarrassed. He wants me to accept this change. I feel like I’ve lost my dad. I wonder how he will come dressed at my wedding.